As a therapist, I am a companion. I try to help people tune into their own wisdom.
~ Virginia Satir
I am here to help.
We are all in this life together.
The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.
~ Carl Jung
I’ll work with you, collaboratively, within your own value system, to encourage the presence of emotion in the therapy moment, in session. This is important because real change is more likely to happen, and to be long-lasting, when deep emotions are involved. Sometimes we — our thoughts — are out of touch with our feelings. Then, we don’t really know ourselves. It can create distress and makes it so difficult to discover the core issues. We may have trouble figuring out what the real problem is.
So we’ll work on connecting and integrating, putting all the parts and pieces together until you have a sense that they fit . . . A process of creating personal insight and increasing well-being.
We’ll sit together and talk about your life story. I’ll help you read what’s between the lines of that story, claim what’s truly yours — what you want to hang onto, what’s important to you, and then re-write what you want to change in that story.
The most powerful therapeutic process I know is to contribute to rich story development. – Michael White
What will your story be?
This rewriting of story is a thinking matter, cognitive, thoughtful. But we look to emotion to be our guide to the essence of what you truly value, what’s most important to you, what’s meaningful for you. We’ll work with emotion, in the moment, in session. We’ll make space for whatever emerges that’s significant to your experience . . . because you are unique. Also, we’ll explore emotion that’s part of the shared human experience . . . because, in that sense, we are alike.
There can be no transforming of darkness into light . . .
For healing, growth, and transformation, we will let emotion lead us deeper, toward what is present in the personal unconscious and the collective unconscious, toward deeper meaning.
The problem is the problem, the person is not the problem.
– Michael White
BUT . . . ALSO . . .
The problem is never the problem! It is only a symptom of something much deeper.
– Virginia Satir
BOTH ARE TRUE
You know what’s distressful for you. You know your suffering. Would knowing more about it, where it comes from, how you might change, make a difference in your life? We could try to find out together.
But there was no need to be ashamed of tears, for tears bore witness that a (hu)man had the greatest of courage, the courage to suffer.
― Viktor Frankl
It’s not always easy! In fact, it’s sometimes very hard — sometimes very painful.
You’ve been walking down your own personal path of pain. Does it help to know others have walked similar, neighboring paths? This is where a therapist with research-based training can be helpful. This shared human experience — grief, pain, loss, shame, sadness, anger, loneliness, isolation, intimacy, wonder, joy — how do we live with it? What meaning can we make of it? How do we cope with it?
We need to see ourselves as basic miracles.
~ Virginia Satir
What strengths and resources do you have personally, individually, spiritually, as well as collectively, that you can call on for healing, growth, transformation? Since we’re human, there’s a lot there. But sometimes it’s hidden away, hard to find, hard to access. And sometimes we just can’t find these strengths at all in ourselves, on our own. So we don’t claim them and use them for our benefit, relief, growth.
We all need help sometimes.
The greatest gift I can give is to see, hear, understand, and touch another person.
~ Virginia Satir
This is the essence of the rich complexity of life, of human-ness: being a differentiated individual, yet intimate with others; being unique, yet somehow the same; being separate, yet connected; being oneself, yet still needing one another; reaching inside, while reaching out; within and also between.
You are a part of many systems. You are a system of many parts. You are not alone.
When two people relate to each authentically and humanly, God is the electricity that surges between them.
— Martin Buber
My style of philosophical and methodological integrative work is all about connections within (self) and between (with others), as well as bringing what’s deeply buried into the light. It involves connecting to deeper aspects of ourselves as well as connecting deeply to others in our lives. The goal of this work is always to strengthen/enhance relationships, to promote self healing, to foster authentic being and living, meaningful growth and actualization.
The goal is life . . . life as it can be.
The dream is the small hidden door in the deepest and most intimate sanctum of the soul.
– Carl Jung
What’s your dream?